suspected or late diagnosed adhd in women
ADHD in midlife:
Finally seeing what has been there all along
Whether you’ve spent your life overachieving to prove yourself or constantly feeling like you’re falling behind, there’s often been an invisible current running beneath it all…
You had to work twice as hard to stay organized, to focus, to keep up.
Sometimes it worked. Sometimes it didn’t.
And now, in midlife, that effort feels heavier, harder to sustain, and less effective than it used to.
Maybe you’ve just discovered that ADHD might be part of your story or you’ve recently been diagnosed and everything suddenly makes sense. The constant overthinking, the scattered focus, the lost keys, the tremendous effort to motivate yourself, the burnout that seems to hit harder than it used to.
You’re not broken.
You’ve been brilliantly adapting your whole life - often without realizing it.
This is the beginning of understanding yourself through a kinder, clearer lens. Learn how to get your body, brain and your life working in sync.
Let go of the Fight, Flight and Freeze of ADHD and grow into your Flow
The Overlooked Face of ADHD
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Overcommitting and then collapsing in exhaustion.
Spinning your wheels on small tasks, but thriving in a crisis.
Perfectionism that masks paralysis.
Constant mental chatter that never turns off.
Creative bursts followed by guilt for not following through.
Feeling “too much” and “not enough” … often in the same day.
For years, these patterns may have been chalked up to anxiety, stress, or “just how you are.”
But now, with more awareness and shifting hormones in the mix … it’s becoming clear that something deeper is at play.
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For many women, ADHD flies under the radar for decades. It doesn’t always look like hyperactivity or impulsiveness.
More often it looks like:
When Hormones Shift,
So Does the Brain
Perimenopause and menopause bring their own wave of changes — and for women with ADHD (diagnosed or not), the impact can be profound.
Estrogen plays a key role in dopamine regulation — the same neurotransmitter that affects focus, motivation, and executive function. As estrogen fluctuates, so does your brain chemistry.
Suddenly, strategies that used to work stop working. Your brain feels foggier, your emotions closer to the surface, your motivation harder to find.
You might notice:
Forgetfulness that feels like more than “mom brain.”
Emotional swings or irritability that seem out of proportion.
Losing track of time or tasks, even ones that matter deeply.
A sense of overwhelm that’s hard to explain to others.
This intersection — ADHD and hormonal transition — is often where women first recognize the full picture of what’s been happening all along.
Why a Late Diagnosis Hits Differently
Getting an ADHD diagnosis in midlife can feel both liberating and disorienting.
Finally, there’s a name for what you’ve been navigating all these years - the constant self-critique, the missed deadlines, the creative chaos, the sense that you were almost managing but never quite good enough.
It can also bring grief. Grief for the younger version of you who didn’t have this insight, who worked so hard to feel successful and to fit in. Grief and loss for what could have been.
But this moment also opens the door to something powerful:
Understanding, self-compassion, and strategy that actually works.
Therapy with a Coach Approach bridges insight and action, helping you to:
Go from this …
Feeling like you’re constantly running late -in time, in life, in expectations.
Having a brain that’s always “on” - spinning with ideas but stuck in follow-through.
Shame that comes from years of masking or overcompensating.
Trouble finishing projects or remembering appointments.
Emotional sensitivity - tears, irritability, or anxiety that flare without warning.
A sense that you’ve lost your spark - or that it’s buried under the chaos and overwhelm.
To this:
Learn to create calm within the chaos - and focus when it matters most.
Rebuild trust in yourself after years of self-criticism.
Develop supportive routines that honor both structure and spontaneity.
Recognize your ADHD traits as strengths in disguise.
Feel more present, patient, and connected within yourself and your daily your life.
Move from being in constant flux to finally experiencing a steady flow.
If you had a chrystal ball…
Imagine six months from now - still feeling scattered, still exhausted from trying to “just focus,” still questioning why things that seem simple for others take so much out of you.
You deserve more than another round of self-blame and burnout.
Now imagine those same six months spent understanding your brain, honoring your needs, and reconnecting with the wisdom that’s been within you all along - your Sage self.
The version of you who trusts her intuition, moves with purpose, and feels centered in her own rhythm.
Current you may be thinking this sounds like a good idea - and that you’ll reach out when life settles down.
But future you - your Sage self - is quietly urging, please don’t wait.
Whether you work with me or someone else, you don’t have to keep doing this alone.
The sooner you begin, the sooner your wisdom can lead instead of your worry.
You might be wondering…
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It’s a valid question. Life overload, perimenopause, sleep issues, and chronic stress can all mimic ADHD symptoms. But ADHD often carries a lifelong thread — patterns of disorganization, impulsivity, or intense focus that have been there since childhood. Sorting out what’s hormonal, what’s situational, and what’s neurological takes time and a skilled guide.
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Absolutely not. Midlife is a powerful time to work with your brain instead of against it. With the right insight and tools, you can reclaim energy, creativity, and confidence that may have felt buried under years of coping.
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Medication is one path — but not the only one. Therapy and coaching that blend neuroscience, mindfulness, and practical supports can help you learn new ways to manage focus, regulate emotions, and find flow.
Therapy for ADHD in Midlife:
This isn’t about “fixing” your brain — it’s about understanding how it’s wired and creating a rhythm that supports it.
In our work together, we might explore:
Reframing your self-story from “I’m scattered” to “My brain thrives on stimulation and creativity.”
Mind-body practices to regulate overwhelm and impulsivity.
Tools to strengthen executive function — without rigid systems that don’t fit real life.
Mindfulness and hypnotherapy to quiet the noise and strengthen self-trust.
EFT/Tapping and ACT-based strategies for emotional balance.
Lifestyle shifts that nurture dopamine naturally — sleep, movement, nutrition, connection.
We’ll look at how your environment, hormones, and habits interact - so you can create systems that flow with your brain, not fight against it.
You’ve spent a lifetime adapting, masking, overworking, or minimizing your struggle.
You don’t need more willpower; you need a framework that honors your brain.
The truth is, your brain isn’t broken. It’s beautifully complex.
And with the right understanding, tools, and care - you can finally experience what it’s like to flow with your mind instead of fighting it.
Let’s work together to make sense of your story, uncover what’s been getting in the way, and create a plan that supports what your whole self needs to succeed.
Ready to turn the mess into Mastery?
You have too much of your life ahead of you to settle. Being at the crossroads of Midlife can feel overwhelming.
But you don’t have to navigate the journey alone.